The unsuitable Personality…taking relations forward…

I was about to share this a month ago. Many had asked me about it. I would say i had prepared one a month ago. But, last month i was travelling to Shimla one day and i must say the place is impeccable. Sunset from the ridge with slight rainfall during the noon hours was unforgettable to see. Meanwhile, the freezing wind late night provided all that i wanted in this summer. But, hang on why i am saying this is because when you visit Shimla one place i must recommend is the embassy cakes. It will look like an old fairy tale kind of place where you can enjoy great cookies, cup cakes and pastry along with drinks on offer. Why i am describing this is because this place actually changed my whole understandings towards believing in someone.

                        When you visit this store with great ambience and some beautiful Rafi and kishore da’s old classical hits playing in the background you will see postcards and letters pasted to the wall. Messages from different people living in different phases of life for someone whom they might have not met for a long period of time. The banana shake which uncle at the cafe made for me was unbelievable. I was just roaming around and having a look at those messages until i reached one point which not only forced me to read it but to change the complete Performa of the blog earlier i wanted to publish.

                         One girl named Emily had certain issues with her family because of which her family left her all alone. After a long duration when her family eventually encountered the real cause, they found it was just a big misconception that led to witness this phase in their life. Their daughter was not with them with no clue whatsoever to contact. Meanwhile, Emily was here at Shimla after 7 years at the same shop where she once came in with her family on vacation from the UK when she was in 2nd Grade. Her great grandfather was once working here at the viceroy’s house which is now the Indian institute of advance studies. She dropped one post card with the real reason what happened on that day with her contact number considering this fact that one day maybe her father or mother will read this and contact her. Years later one winter her mother visited the place and went through the letter and tried to contact her.

                         She called her. On the other side Emily’s husband took the phone and he told her mother that she is no more. She was travelling through the Malaysian airlines flight that was never found last year. Furthermore, he added she always wanted to tell her mother sorry but also wanted to tell her that she loved her most and she was actually misunderstood.

                         Often we come across a scenario when we are wrongly judged. This does not mean that the person is not the suitable personality as you wanted. Over the years a different idea, Knowledge or understanding helps in analysing what exactly would had happened. But, along with doing so a sudden inspection is what is required to understand the nature of the person and what he might had went through. We have this ability and potential to indulge ourselves from opening the thought procedure where we can understand what might have taken place. Rather than negating the complete thought procedure it is extremely important to analyse what might have happened before judging.

                       Many a time you will witness you are misjudged or misunderstood. Taking this context a fold upward we will see an aggressive approach of solving a problem. WHY? We must ask this question to ourselves what the person whom you are judging might be going through. May be he or she is having a lot vivid spectrum of understanding. At this junction we need to sit back and try and understand. There are times when your quick action may or will violate the relationship which is going very smoothly into a dead atmosphere with no positive openings from which neither you or the person sitting on the other side of the desk suffer. No one is unsuitable is what you will encounter if you will try and understand the association you had. Never ever put your relation on sake because of this one small issue. Misunderstanding is something that can never be perfectly explained but of course it can be examined to improve the scenario which might result you across an unfortunate phase where you will miss someone special.

                        The world is not only collection of people but most importantly it is collection of quality people in your life. Whom you value and who value you. Rather, than ignoring or avoiding the person’s understandings it’s highly important to listen. Sometimes best ideas or understanding comes from listening. It is often a procedure of designing a quality of life for oneself. Before judging something or someone regarding a context or scenario it is essential for you to ask hell lot of questions. Make yourself so consumed that not a single loop hole is avoided. Any relation is one of the priceless gifts you are presented with.

                        Never avoid this gift or refuse it. Try not just to pick it but try to grab it and keep it safe. Keep it within your reach. People in your surroundings are the best present you will take from your respective life because memories are something that can never be bought. I may not be correct but this is just one single projection of the many reasons of misunderstandings that is commonly seen in our generation. Avoid it and live happy.

 Cover Picture : The Embassy cafe, The Mall, Shimla